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You Can't Solve Problems By Passing Judgments

You Can't Solve Problems By Passing Judgments 


Jesus said, what does the scripture say and how do you read it?

We always defend why we are right. In misunderstandings we over explain things because of our ego.

We want to be understood more than to understand.

We want to be understand so much that we try to prove to the person that our judgments are right and get the other person to agree with our judgments.

We want to try and make you believe that the reason we think you are doing something is the reason you think you are doing something.

It is a maddening kind of fighting that goes in endless circles and nothing ever gets solved.

Person A:
Wants person B to understand why they think their judgment is correct.

But if person A would understand person B more then they might not have those judgments in the first place.

If you make it too difficult for people to talk to you people are going to stop talking to you.

If you make it too difficult for people to ask you questions then people are going to stop asking you questions.

If you make it too hard to solve problems with people then people are going to stop trying to solve problems with you.

If people are not open with me then I'm probably too scary.

When you are trying to fix a problem then you need to ASK QUESTIONS FIRST:

Asking questions you are trying to understand.

But when you are making statements then you are trying to be understood which is not the first place to go.
























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